Part of Mommyhood is being a good wife. I think that this week I have not done a great job of that. One day this week, I spent pretty much the entire day yelling - actually, it was more like talking loudly with no gentleness than outright yelling. Why? I do not know. It started with me getting angry with our cell phone company and, as they are not in the house for me to yell at, I yelled at my husband because he was there. I let my flesh control my actions in ways that I know I should not have. I was contentious and quarrelsome. My kids were on edge all day as a result and really, it was more than sad and pitiful, it was ugly.
Our flesh is ugly. It is full of sin and God with His unlimited grace and mercy cleanses us and makes us beautiful. Proverbs says a wise woman builds her house and a foolish woman tears her house down. This week I do not think I was doing a lot of building, I think I was doing a lot of tearing down. How sad it is that I did this. I am going to spend my Saturday rebuilding that which I tore down. I have not yelled since Wednesday but at the same time, I have not done much rebuilding. The good thing about rebuilding is that when something is rebuilt it is can built stronger than it was originally so that it cannot be torn or knocked down again.
Below are just a few verses that talk about this in the Word. I am thinking that every woman deals with this. We as women have a lot of power, more than we realize. It is our job to keep submitted to the Lord so that that power is not abused and is only used to glorify Christ and edify our family.
Proverbs 12:4 (NKJV)
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 14:1 (NKJV)
The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands.
Proverbs 21:9 (NKJV)
Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
Proverbs
Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.
Proverbs 27:15 (NKJV)
A continual dripping on a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike;
i am so there with you! i have spent the last couple weeks "rebuilding" what i had torn down. thus all my posts on anger! God has also shown me the ugliness of anger. man. YUCK! i love all of the verses you brought out...i have all of those underlined in blue (for marriage stuff) in my bible. gotta love God's Word!
ReplyDeleteI am sure every woman deals with being contentious. I started thinking about how as daughters, mothers, coworkers, wives, roommates - we can be awful to be around if we are contentious women. I think God knew this was an issue with all the verses there are in His Word.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for sharing. I really have enjoyed your posts. It is a constant fight of faith not to be that nagging wife. Happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteThanks Emily. It is a constant struggle you are right. A friend of mine always gives me this advice, "Just bite your tongue." I have a way of speaking words that should not be said sometimes. Happy Thanksgiving to you.
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